Writings by me:

• The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality: My long nonfiction book on asexuality, published September 2014.
• My Best Asexuality Posts: An archive of my best asexuality-related posts on Tumblr.
• “‘Enjoy Your Houseful of Cats’: On Being an Asexual Woman”: The Toast published my short piece on asexual femininity.
• “Asexuality and the Health Professional”: My first published blog in Psychology Today.
• “Asexuality is Not a Diagnosis”: My second Psychology Today article about six things people say when they’re bogusly trying to examine asexuality scientifically.
• “Ten Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who’s Asexual”: An article I wrote about attempts at supporting us that are misguided, reprinted from my Tumblr in an abbreviated form on Mindbodygreen.
• “Asexual, Aromantic, Partnerless, Childless – and Happy”: An article I wrote about asexual happiness as a recipe in a world that expects me to “eat” different stuff, published in Drunk Monkeys and later reprinted as “Asexual, Aromantic, Partnerless, Child-Free… And (Yes!) Happy” in Everyday Feminism.
• “Asexuality is not Antisexuality”: Sex Positivity in a Negative World. My first article that I wrote for Good Vibrations magazine.
• “Sexual Attraction vs. Romantic Attraction”: My second article for Good Vibrations.
• “Are Asexuals Queer?”: My third article for Good Vibrations.
• “How to Be an Asexual Ally”: My fourth article for Good Vibrations.
• “Why Should the Sex-Positive Community Promote Asexuality Awareness?”: My fifth article for Good Vibrations.
• “Asexual Relationships”: My sixth article for Good Vibrations.
• “Asexuality and Sexual Fluidity”: My seventh article for Good Vibrations.
• “DiversiTheme: The Invisible Orientation”: Guest post on DiversifYA regarding asexual representation in fiction.

The media I have been featured in:

• “Asexual and Proud”: The article by Lynn Harris in Salon, which I was interviewed for.
• “Asexuality Gets More Attention, But Is It a Sexual Orientation?”: AASECT’s newsletter, Contemporary Sexuality, used some quotes from me here.
• “No Sex? No Problem,” an article by Jacqueline Jennings published in The Daily Beast (I am the “Ivy” in the article).
• “The Opposite of Sex” in Marie Claire by Lynn Harris. I was interviewed for this; here are Page 1 and Page 2. (I scanned the physical article because I don’t think there’s one online.)
• “Shedding light on asexuality,”an article by Lauren Hartog published in Drake Magazine that I interviewed for (though the author incorrectly defines asexuality and makes misleading statements).
• “Acknowledging asexuality on the queer spectrum,” an article by Morgan Welch published in 429Magazine. I was interviewed for this article and quoted in it.
• “Asexuality: The ‘X’ In A Sexual World”: I was interviewed and my materials are included in this six-part article by Dominique Mosbergen in The Huffington Post, discussing the asexual community and its challenges and experiences. I was specifically quoted in Part 4 and Part 5, and a follow-up video interview on HuffPost Live was conducted including me on the panel.
• “We Are Interlopers”: I was interviewed and quoted in this South Florida Gay News article by Gideon Grudo.
• “Everything’s A-Okay–Celebrating Asexual Awareness Week”: I was part of a collaborative video featured in this Huffington Post article by James Nichols.
• “‘Asexuality: An Overview’ By Julie Decker Explains A Frequently Misunderstood Identity”: My Asexuality: An Overview video was featured on the Huffington Post in their Asexual Awareness Week coverage, with some more quotes from me.
• “‘Men say I need a good raping’: Asexual woman, 35, on how she never has, and never will, have sex”: Uncomfortably distorted article in The Daily Mail that inexplicably used a decade-old photo of me in a bathing suit they got off Facebook instead of asking me for a recent, professional photo. Many inaccuracies, but some decent info.
• “‘I don’t need to be raped’ an Asexual activist speaks out”: Extremely inaccurate, typo-ridden, mistake-filled article that piggybacked on the above one trying to profile me. They get nearly everything wrong–even my name. But they embed my video, which debunks some of the odd things they say. The Daily Mail article was recycled in other places too, such as The Hollywood Gossip, Joint Arena, Nigeria News, 7sur7, ¿Qué Más?, and Elu24.
• Julie Sondra Decker (Asexuality): I answer questions about asexuality and how to write diverse characters on the DiversifYA blog.
• “I’m a 35 year old virgin”: Best Magazine publishes a piece about me, but has presented it in first person as if I’d written it (I did not), and misrepresents my position. A print article in two parts was also published.
• “How to Tell If You Are Asexual”: TIME Magazine gives a brief introduction about my book and publishes a 600-word excerpt.
• “Toronto hosts second-ever International Asexuality Conference”: The Varsity gives a rundown of the recent asexuality conference and features me.
• “The Invisible Orientation”: Georgia Political Review recycles a few quotes from me and other activists about asexuality.
• “Dragons Raging: Julie Sondra Decker & Asexuality”: YA Interrobang interviews me about asexuality in media.
• “Awesomesauce Authors: An Interview with Julie Sondra Decker!”: Dannie Morin of Left to Write interviewed me, and I talk about the asexuality book.
• “The Forgotten Preference”: An interview with me published in the University of Ottawa’s student paper, The Fulcrum.
• “Why/Why Not”: SL Huang published my answers to a series of questions on my asexuality book.
• “You’re about as sexually attractive to me as a turtle: Coming out as asexual in a hypersexual world”: Salon did a Q&A with me to discuss my new book and my asexual experience.
• “Why Asexuals Don’t Want to Be Invisible Anymore”: The New York Times spotlighted asexuality and heavily featured me and my book.
• “Asexual Awareness 101: Debunking Myths And Misconceptions”: Chris from Pleasure Mechanics featured some asexuality-related discussion on YourTango.com, featuring an interview with me and some info from my book.
• “Swankivy הראיון עם” (“Interview with Swankivy”): The Israeli Asexual Forum published an interview with me.
• “The Asexuals”: Marie Claire UK published a story in their December 2014 issue with some personal perspectives of asexual people, and I’m one of them.
• “Julie Sondra Decker Talks ‘The Invisible Orientation’”: Review Fix interviews me about my book and asexuality.
• “Asexuals raise awareness of the ‘invisible orientation’”: The Washington Post spotlighted asexuality and several people’s experiences, and I was quoted once, with my book featured.
• “No sex please–it’s boring”: Maclean’s in Canada published an interview with me in their December 22, 2014 issue, along with some other information about asexuality.
• “Los asexuales reivindican su hueco”: Yorokobu interviewed me in this Spanish-language magazine.
• “It’s not easy being ace”: The Varsity interviews me and several other asexual people.
• “Asexuality: The Invisible Orientation?”: US News and World Report published an article on asexuality which included an interview with me.
• “The Asexuality Movement Is Gaining Traction”: A Plus published this discussion of the movement, with some quotes from me.
• “What it’s like to be completely asexual”: Tech Insider published this interview with me.
• “Asexuality: People Who Just Don’t Love Sex”: My book and activism is mentioned in this Article Cats piece.
• “I’d rather eat cake”: I contributed some quotes to this Convergence article.
• “Maybe Sex Just Isn’t His Thing”: I offered advice with Dan Savage in this Savage Love Letter of the Day.
• “Interview with Author Julie Sondra Decker”: Geeks OUT interviewed me about asexuality.
• “10 Facts About Asexuality That Dispel Harmful Myths”: Julie Kliegman interviews some asexual people (including me) for SELF.
• Asexuality deserves recognition; content creators: all sexual identities: I’m interviewed by an asexual journalist with some other aces.
• A look into the spectrum: Affirming asexual narratives: An article in The LaSallian where I’m quoted with other aces.
• “Paris Hilton thought she was asexual. What we often misunderstand about asexuality.”  USA Today interviewed me and a few other asexual folks on the difference between sexual avoidance/repression/trauma and asexuality.
• “Everything You Need to Know About Asexuality (But Didn’t Want to Ask)”:  The Knot interviews me to discuss some specific asexuality-related topics.
• Friday Night Lip Service podcast: #51 Lip Readings discusses The Invisible Orientation in depth.
• BBC World Service podcast: Dan Damon interviewed me about my book. Listen only (interview is 22 minutes in).
• Pleasure Mechanics: Chris interviewed me about my book and asexuality in a nice, nuanced 30-minute interview.
• Sexperts: Dr. Limor from Playboy interviewed me about asexuality. The segment starts about 41 minutes in.
• Asexuality segment on WNPR’s Colin McEnroe Show: I talked about asexuality with the host and two other asexual spokespeople–Kathy Way and David Jay–and Tony Bogaert weighed in from a researcher’s perspective. This is an audio-only interview that you can hear streaming from the site.
• Asexuality segment on The Authority Smashing! Hour: David Jay and I had a nice hour-long chat with host Zeno, discussing not only asexuality itself but its relationship to radical society as a movement. You can download an mp3 or listen streaming, or just read the transcript here (it’s a Google Doc, transcribed by Sciatrix).
• Graying Rainbows: Ginger Campbell interviews me about asexuality on a podcast for older LGBTQ+ people.
• The Silencing of Asexuals on Flow: Sheila Das interviews me about conversations surrounding asexuality.
• Spinsterhood Reimagined: Lucy Meggeson interviews me about asexuality, aromanticism, and connections to perpetual singlehood.
• Modern Pleasure: Dr. Jenni and Kim interview me for an overview with a couple deep-dives on asexuality.

More interviews, articles, and links:

• “Let’s not talk about sex, a new group decides”: Article in San Francisco Bay Guardian that discusses David Jay’s experience allying with LGBT groups to discuss sexual identity.
• “No sex please, I’m not into it”: The Sydney Morning Herald covers a few asexual people’s experiences discovering and living with their identity, and gives a basic rundown of what the orientation is.
• “Not everyone has to have it. Not everyone even wants it”: Inside Bay Area spotlights a couple asexual men and discusses the asexual community through AVEN.
• “Trend: Saying no to sex”: Israel Singles explores what asexuality is and is not.
• “Asexuality”: H2G2, an Internet version of the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, has a pretty good article about asexuality’s basic points, with a little humor.
• “Glad to be asexual”: Article in New Scientist which features several asexual people’s perspectives.
• “Sexless and Proud”: Several asexual people say what their experiences have been like, and Anthony Bogaert supports the idea of an asexual orientation.
• “Asexuals Unite”: AlterNet talks about asexual romance and the freedom to discuss and explore identity.
• “D) None of the above — some people seem to prefer no sex at all”: The Edmonton Journal includes a discussion of the scientific/biological study of asexuality and some perspectives from folks who felt liberated upon discovering the orientation had a name.
• “We’re married, we just don’t have sex”: Article in The Guardian discusses Paul and Amanda’s married life as an asexual couple.
• “Sex-Positivity and Asexuality: Bringing Them Together”: An article on the intersection between asexuality and sex positivity by Charlie Glickman, for Good Vibrations magazine.
• “What is it like to be asexual?”: BBC News article featuring Jenni and some other asexual people discussing an overview of asexuality.
• “Asexuals Push for Greater Recognition”: Article on ABC News about David Jay and the community.
• “Asexuals Leave the Closet, Find Community”: Article in the San Francisco Chronicle which discusses the movement and how a few individuals’ lives were affected by it.
• “Are There Asexuals Among Us?” The Scientific American writer Jesse Bering writes on “the possibility of a ‘fourth’ sexual orientation.”
• “A-Sexomatic: Dealing with asexuality”: Article in Elle Canada that discusses the study of asexual people and why it’s a legitimate orientation.
• “Interview with David Jay, Star of the New Documentary (A)Sexual”: In The Rumpus, David frankly discusses his personal life and his involvement with the movie.
• “I’d Rather Eat Cake”: Interview in Kitsch with Alexis Karinin.
• “I Am Asexual (and It’s Awesome!)”: In Jezebel, s.e. smith discusses the problematic question about “having someone special in your life,” among other things.
• “No Sex Please”: The Telegraph discusses women who are asexual and/or celibate.
• “An Asexual Map for Sex-Positive Feminism”: Feministe features guest blogger Kaz and discusses consent, compromise, numbers, and identity.
• “Among the asexuals”: The Guardian UK discusses asexuality and its acceptance in the larger community.
• “Life Without Sex: The Third Phase of the Asexuality Movement”: The Atlantic discusses the community’s shift toward questioning intimacy beyond the sexual.
• “Coming out, loud and proud”: Article in The Independent discusses David Jay’s conception of the orientation along with some research and opinion.
• “Asexual awakening”: Article by Luke Malone in The Age newspaper (Australia). Discusses a couple asexual perspectives.
• “Does Asexuality Fall Under the Queer Umbrella?”: Article by Allison Hope in The Huffington Post.
• “Asexual network AVEN gives voice to those who don’t feel sexual attraction”: Article in Metro.
• “Ontario asexuals challenge assumptions”: Article by David Seitz in Xtra!, Canada’s Gay & Lesbian News.
• “What asexuals reveal about sex”: Article by Tracy Clark-Flory in Salon, outlining discussions of intimacy and how asexuality is leading to a broader understanding of how it can be explored in all relationships.
• “Asexuals – the fourth sexual orientation”: Article by Genevieve Roberts in The Independent, on asexuality being an under-studied population that should be understood as a sexual orientation.
• “The fourth sexual orientation: One per cent of the population now considers themselves asexual”: Article in the Daily Mail that suggests “the sexualization of our culture” has caused asexuality. Focusing on statements by Bogaert.
• “Asexuality always existed, you just didn’t notice it”: Article by s.e. smith in The Guardian, on how asexuality isn’t anything new, but with more people identifying that way, the mainstream doesn’t get it.
• “Why sexual people don’t get asexuality and why it matters”: Article by Mark Carrigan on the sexual assumption and why people’s knee-jerk reaction is to try to explain away rather than understand asexuality.
• “In Defense of Demisexuality”: Article by Olivia Davis in The Good Men Project on what demisexuality is and why acknowledging its existence matters.
• “What’s Your Story?”: Article about Johanna Qualmann in Cleo magazine discussing an Australian aromantic asexual woman.
• “Aussie beauty–Proud to be asexual”: Here’s Jo again in New Idea.
• “Prejudice Against ‘Group X’”: Article by Gordon Hodson, Ph.D., about prejudice against asexual people and documentation that it exists.
• “The moment I realised I was asexual”: Article by Olivia Gordon in The Telegraph about several asexual people’s experiences and relationships, with a somewhat in-depth discussion of why asexuality is not pathological.
• “I’m still a virgin – after 17 years of living with a man”: Sex and relationships adviser Dr. Petra Boynton answers a write-in question about a relationship issue, suggesting the female partner may be asexual.
• “Urban Profile: David Jay: Asexual, Sexless and Happy”: Urban Profile interview with David Jay, conducted by Vanessa Chan, discussing DJ’s sexual and romantic experiences.
• “Asexuality: The People’s Choice for People Who Don’t Want ANYONE”: Article by Kristen Bahler in VICE, featuring M., David, and Sara Beth. M. was mistakenly referred to by female pronouns in this article and repeatedly referred to by the incorrect name.
• “Life without sex: imagining asexuality in popular culture”: Article written by Karli Cerankowski, discussing how to discuss asexuality.
• “Asexuality should be recognized as a legitimate asexual orientation”: Article by Tracey Hickey in The Pitt News which is well-written and explores the misconceptions many asexual people deal with as well as sharing some perspectives on asexual people who have sex and what kind of non-sexual and non-romantic partnerships can be formed.
• “I’ll never have sex again swears young, attractive asexual Lisa Smith”: Article by Angharad Llewellyn in The Sun about a twenty-nine-year-old asexual woman who wants a romantic partner but does not want to have sex with him.
• “How I Came to Understand Asexuality”: Article by Patrick in Freedom Requires Wings about his philosophy on learning about other sexual orientations that are not his own, and why he’s accepting of asexuality.
• “Things That You Should Know About Asexuality”: Article by jinx in BuzzFeed that goes over some basics.
• “Interview With a Virgin: Eliot”: Article by Jia Tolentino in The Hairpin giving the perspective of a post-thirty asexual.
• “Asexuality: The Sexual Orientation You Might Not Know About”: Article by Judith Ohikuare in Her Campus, discussing how asexual people of college age relate to their orientation (with some invalidating “expert” opinions).
• “LGBT Soup for a reason”: Article by Sophie Cairns in Lesbilicious, examining Ciara McGratten’s bigoted perspective that was published in Gay Community News. The original article sarcastically and insensitively dismissed bisexuals, trans people, and asexual people as not belonging under the gay umbrella, and this article disagrees, offering support and rationale for inclusion.
• “What Is Asexuality And How To Tell If You’re Asexual Or Not”: Article by Meg Malone in Gurl, giving a brief overview of asexuality and the importance of visibility.
• “The A is Here to Stay”: Article by Sara Beth Brooks in the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force blog. Sara Beth guest posts about how asexuality is included in the larger queer community.
• “Interview: Asexual Representative”: Interview conducted by Hugh Bassett in The Tab London, featuring an LGBT group’s asexual representative, Suzanna.
• “Asexuality Needs to Be Included When We Discuss Sex and Sexuality”: Article by Matt P. Dawson in The Huffington Post UK blog, discussing asexuality being included in studies and what the implications are for asexuality staying invisible.
• “Today’s Lesson: Asexual Dating”: Article by Eric Ramirez in College Magazine, highlighting how aces date and why it’s pretty similar to how everyone else dates.
• “Youth: Straight, LGBT or ‘other’?”: Article on CNN discussed how younger people are embracing their orientations, and asexuality is discussed.
• “Asexuality: The ‘X’ In A Sexual World”: Article by Dominique Mosbergen in The Huffington Post, exploring the asexual community and its challenges in a fairly comprehensive six-part article.
• “Things Asexuals (Aces) Are Tired Of Hearing”: Article by lisas59 in BuzzFeed, featuring common misconceptions and amusing takedowns of why they’re all misconceived.
• “Never been kissed”: Article by Annabel Ross in the Eyre Peninsula Tribune featuring a matter-of-fact capsule view of Zoe Feigen’s experience as an asexual person in Australia.
• “Tales of the Sexless”: Article in The Blot including a few little cross-sections of asexual experience in the world and how various asexual people deal with relationships, dreams, and coming out.
• “Asexual people find comfort in community”: The Georgia Straight in Vancouver interviews Nicole Brown about asexual visibility and coming to an asexual identity.
• “Life without sex: the women who say ‘no’”: Catherine White gives an interview to The Sydney Morning Herald about cultural norms that affect asexuality, and being true to oneself.
• “Asexuality 101”: Article in the Daily Kos giving some introductory information to asexuality (and links to my Asexual Bingo video).
• “The New England Aces to kick off Boston’s first Asexual Awareness Week: Article in Metro discussing a large, popular asexual group and its awareness efforts.
• “Why Do People Keep Calling my Sexuality ‘Noble’?”: Article in Bitch Magazine that explores a demisexual perspective.
• “Life in Progress: Asexual Awareness Week”: The Gay Agenda does a spotlight on the orientation for Asexual Awareness Week.
• “What is Asexuality?” York Vision, a student paper, explains asexuality in terms of how many people are asexual, what asexual relationships are like, what kinds of attractions they experience, and more.
• “Is this the most misunderstood sexual community in the UK?”: Article in Planet Ivy about the UK community and an overall perspective on asexuality.
• “Sex: The No-Libido Credo”: Article in Psychology Today by Matt Huston discussing asexuality and how it offers another perspective on intimacy.
• “Asexuals: The Sexual Orientation No One Talks About”: Article in iVillage by Jessica O’Reilly that explains asexuality and spotlights several ace experiences.
• “Asexuality”: Article in Beaumont Society‘s Winter 2013 issue by Kerry Goodman, discussing the experience of a biromantic asexual person.
• “Reconnecting Disability and Asexuality”: Article in Disability Intersections by Lydia Brown, discussing the problematic aspects of assuming asexuality = disability or that disability = asexuality, examines the issues with normalizing able bodies in an asexual context and normalizing non-asexual orientations in disabled bodies, and unpacks the problems inherent in being both.
• “Asexuality: the fourth sexual orientation”: Metro News Canada published a short discussion of what asexuality is.
• “Asexuality? It’s Normal, Says Expert”: The Epoch Times discusses Anthony Bogaert’s work on normalizing asexuality and discusses Amy de Vos’s experience. They agree that awareness is crucial.
• “Kerry Goodman – Asexuality”: Article in Beaumont Society Magazine in the UK in which Kerry talks about her experience as a biromantic asexual person.
• “For Temple U. asexual, community finally forming in Philly”: Article on Philly.com about Ninqi Stratton’s growing-up-asexual experience.
• “Sex totally sucks”: Cosmopolitan acknowledged asexuality in answering a reader’s question.
• “An Asexual Love Story: Asexual Relationships”: Matthew’s Place did this lovely piece spotlighting a few different kinds of relationships involving asexual people.
• “Aromantics Just Want to Be Your Friend”: Vice features several aromantic people’s experiences and presents some discussion.
• “An orientation to asexuality”: WTKR spotlights asexual people and discusses the orientation.
• “Being Asexual in a Heteronormative World”: Huffington Post published a piece about the asexual experience. Written by Courtney Ehrenhofler.
• “Va-Va-Bullshit: How Latina ‘Spicy & Sexy’ Stereotypes Affect Asexual Latinas”: Latina magazine spotlights asexuality and how the cultural expectations for Latinas affect asexual women in their communities.
• “6 Important Facts Bust the Biggest Myths About Asexuality”: An article about asexuality’s misconceptions written by Melissa Hugel for Mic.com.
• “Meeting and Understanding the Asexual Community”: Mark Carrigan explores some sensitive thoughts about asexuality and how the outside world sees the community, with photos by Holly Falconer of many asexual-spectrum people who participated in the article.
• “Why do people struggle to understand that I’m asexual?”: Robin Dibben has a piece in The Telegraph which has a video interview with me prominently embedded.
• “Inside the Growing Asexual Community”: Four profiles of asexual folks are discussed in a non-judgmental, informative ELLE article.

Audio Interviews (some with transcripts):

• Sex Nerd Sandra: The Asexuality 101 discussion is an audio podcast with ace group members at Occidental College. (My book is mentioned.)
• How Asexuality Works: The Stuff You Should Know podcast did a half-hour feature on asexuality. This is audio only, not an article.
• Radio Netherlands Worldwide Interview: RNW interviews Nathan Royle of Australia on the topic of asexuality. This link is to hear the interview; it’s not a document.
• Savage Love Interview with David Jay. The link is to hear the interview. Transcript here.
• David Jay on Q: David gets interviewed on the Canadian radio CBC station’s show Q, on the Modern Love segment. This is listen-only.
• David Jay on Sex Out Loud: “David Jay on Asexuality” is an interview hosted by Tristan Taormino. This is listen-only.
• Redefining Romance: David Jay on asexuality again, this time interviewed on To the best of our KNOWLEDGE by Anne Strainchamps. Listen or check out the transcript.
• Why Asexuality Matters for the Future of Sexual Culture: Mark Carrigan interviews David Jay about the importance of visibility and where we go from here. Listen only.
• CFAX 1070 Victoria: Justine Munich is interviewed on Pamela McCall’s show. Listen only.
• Friday Night Lip Service: An asexuality-themed show discussing the asexual spectrum is featured on this feminist podcast. Listen only.