Chris from Pleasure Mechanics, who interviewed me previously, wrote some thoughts about asexuality for YourTango.com and frequently referenced my book and my contributions to asexuality awareness.
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New Video: Publishing Scams
You really don’t want to fall for a publishing scam. But sometimes the world of getting published is a lot more complicated than it seems like it should be, so it’s easy to get swindled or tricked if you don’t know the red flags.
This video is about the red flags.
Interview: Sexperts
I was interviewed about asexuality on Dr. Limor Blockman’s podcast Sexperts—which is a Playboy-affiliated podcast just so you know.
This is the direct link to the download of my interview.
My interview starts after a commercial at about 41:00—forty-one minutes in. I stress that anyone who for any reason does not want to listen to very explicit content should please make an effort to skip right to my interview, because the person who is interviewed right before me is discussing some kink situations (including BDSM, sadism specifically), and there’s a lot of sexually explicit detail. (If that’s your thing, listen to that too! 😉 )
If you’d rather listen in the browser and/or not download the content, I think you can get it here:
Sexperts Episode 32: Different Strokes
The interview with me is brief, but the interviewer knows how to ask open questions and didn’t confront me with any ignorance (though there were a couple phrases about “choice” that I think were not the best choice of words).
Interview: Pleasure Mechanics
Today I joined Chris of Pleasure Mechanics in discussing asexuality and my new book on the Speaking of Sex podcast. This was a really lovely interview; for once we got to discuss some pretty nuanced aspects of the orientation, some discussion beyond the basics, and a fair amount of practical application—what asexual people are learning from queer communities, and what everyone can learn from us.
Check out the interview here; it’s about 30 minutes long.
Interview: BBC Radio Berkshire
I was interviewed by Andrew Peach on the subject of asexuality in general. (I’m referred to as an author but my book isn’t really mentioned, sadly.)
The interviewer did ask a lot of leading questions (like “do you feel like you’re missing out on a part of the human experience that’s supposed to be there?”), but he was basically respectful when I gave straightforward answers. It wasn’t a bad interview, though I think the Skype recording caused a couple glitches.
Update:
Sadly the recordings expire after seven days, so there is no way to listen to this now.
New Video: Writing Every Day?
Some people love giving advice to new/young writers. Sometimes, that advice involves telling others how to do things exactly the way they do things, framing those how-to’s as the only options for becoming successful.
One of the ones I hear most often is “You MUST write EVERY DAY.”
This video is about why that’s not true and why it’s important to trust yourself to find your own rhythm and schedule for your writing.
Interview: BBC World Service
I had a short interview with Dan Damon from the BBC World Service. We discussed asexuality and my book. The questions are cursory and basic, but it’s a tight little spot and pleasant.
Listen to the podcast starting at about 22:40 for my segment.
Featured and Quoted: The New York Times
In Op-Talk, a feature of NYT Opinion, an article about asexuality heavily featuring quotes from me and my book has appeared!
“Why Asexuals Don’t Want to Be Invisible Anymore”
It’s a lovely little piece without the usual naysaying that so many journalists feel is necessary for “balance,” and there are several other asexual voices mixed in so it isn’t entirely a piece about me or my book. I’m quite pleased with it. Please read!
Interview: Weekend Sunrise, “Attracted to No One”
This weekend I was invited on an Australian morning news program called Weekend Sunrise. Happily, I did not have to travel to another continent for a less-than-five-minute interview. They piped me in from a TV studio in Tampa.
Here is the television piece:
Interview: Salon, “You’re about as sexually attractive to me as a turtle”
An interview with me in Salon was posted today in Q&A format. It was an excellent chance to discuss some of the political aims of the asexual community (which we almost never get to talk about!), as well as my own experience discovering asexuality for myself and the best and worst things about it.
Read the article in Salon now!
For me, the worst thing about being asexual is other people trying to fix me all the time. They develop this completely inappropriate obsession with my sexual and romantic life, which can manifest as anything from aggressively propositioning me for sex to searching for what’s “really” wrong with me through invasive questions. Some of them maintain that these attempted interventions are about my health and happiness, apparently unaware that they’re compromising both by refusing to respect my identity.
Unfortunately the comments are full of invalidation, as they generally always are on articles about asexuality published in mainstream media. This one has everything from “this isn’t SCIENTIFIC” to “asexual people are heartless and cruel if they date anyone but other asexual people,” ignoring that actually people can agree to date on any grounds they like and nobody’s the arbiter of what amounts of sex must be promised before dating is fair.
I’ve also been assigned mental illness and misanthrope status, and it’s only been up for a couple hours as I post this! Doing great.
I think there’s a book some girl wrote that these people might benefit from reading. Don’t remember, though . . . what was it called?