Accepted short story: “The Wagon”

So now I have some news that is near and dear to my heart. Another piece of my short fiction has been accepted to an anthology. This time, it’s my story “The Wagon.” It has been selected for publication in Space Ace.

Space Ace is an anthology put out by Farlands Fiction meant to center asexual and aromantic characters and connect to the theme of space.

So cool, right? Well, I thought so too, when I saw the submissions call. But as I’ve said in my first post about “The Wagon,” I had a story that fit that theme but I already sold it. (That one’s coming out in an aromantic-specific anthology, Common Bonds 3.) And I was annoyed that I didn’t have a piece to contribute when the subject was something I like so much!

So, I did what made sense. I wrote one.

With the word count cap up at 10,000 words, I figured I’d be safe from my usual issues, but that turned out to not be true. The first draft was over 13,000 words and I had to hack it down. I didn’t want to consider doing otherwise, because truthfully I wrote this for them. It’s pretty specific to the call and it doesn’t just tack either of the required elements on; it makes space and the asexual/aromantic identity of the protagonist integral.

And then I got kind of stressed out about whether I would get in. I watched some of the stats and started trying to guess if people getting rejected who’d submitted after me meant my story was being held. I theorized about what competition I had. I got invested in a way that I typically don’t about submissions. I guess that’s all a sign of how much I really wanted to be a part of the project.

And I got my wish.

It’s especially awesome that it’s NOT a quick little shot-off story–it’s a substantial piece that I cared a lot about while knocking it out, and I really wanted people to be able to experience it. I love when a lovingly written piece for a specific place leads to a story with no rejections, never made to be anywhere else.

I’ll give details about “The Wagon’s” publication as soon as I have anything to release. Until then, here’s the short pitch:

“The Wagon” involves six friends–Aimee, Lora, Juana, Sadie, Gerry, and Tuan–who became an inseparable group during their college years. They have significantly altered their lives so they could happily live and work on the same space station. But when one of them disappears without warning on a mission to pursue a cure for a deadly illness in a dangerous corner of the galaxy, the rest have to track her down with few clues in case she’s in over her head. And in the midst of losing a groupmate who’s closer than family, Lora dodges the poorly conceived romantic attentions of her coworker Richie, who is determined to marry her because she is the only woman who’s ever beaten him at chess.

 

Book Panel: Being Aro at Tubby and Coo’s

The panel with Madeline, Taka, and Ann was a lovely time. We appeared with host Candice, owner of Tubby and Coo’s bookshop and talked about the new book Being Aro for about an hour. It was a cozy little event where we shared our perspectives and discussed various aspects of the book, including how we felt about the process, what we thought was important about aromantic literature, and personal thoughts on the stories’ development. As the only person on the panel whose contribution was nonfiction (I wrote the introduction!), I was a little bit the odd one out and couldn’t contribute to some of the questions, but that was fine with me. (Sadly I was also having a low-energy day after a pretty bad day at the eye doctor’s, and wasn’t able to see super well. A headache was brewing and it probably showed. I did my best!)

The video is still available on rewatch if you follow the links.

BEING ARO: A Conversation with Madeline Dyer, Taka Owen, Ann Zhao, & Julie Sondra Decker

 

Interview: Asexuality 201

I was a guest for October Aces with JoAnne Turner on I Don’t Know If This Counts: Asexuality 201. (This was a different interview than the one I did for Ace Week.) We talked about how I came to identify as asexual and aromantic, some thoughts on what I would do differently with my book if I got to rewrite it today or what I’d like to see others in the community cover, and resources I recommend for aces both in nonfiction and in fictional media.

 

 

Ten years after The Invisible Orientation I talk with Julie Decker about what she would change, what she wouldn’t, and living in our changed world.

You can listen to the episode in any of these places:

Interview: Asexuality 201

I was a guest for Ace Week with JoAnne Turner on I Don’t Know If This Counts: Asexuality 201. We talked about my personal experience being asexual and aromantic, some reflections on what I would change about my book if I had it to rewrite today (or if I wrote a sequel!), what I’ve seen change since I got involved in the community, and what I suggest in terms of keeping ourselves safe in an increasingly hostile political atmosphere.

 

 

Kicking off Ace Week with Julie Sondra Decker, author of The Invisible Orientation

You can listen to the episode in any of these places:

Blurb Written: The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide

Jessica Kingsley Publishers invited me to read The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide: Making It Work in Friendship, Love, and Sex and provide a blurb. Please check this book out if you or someone you know would like relationship advice from an asexual and/or aromantic point of view.

 

Book info:

Title: The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide: Making It Work in Friendship, Love, and Sex
Author:
Cody Daigle-Orians
ISBN: 9781839977343
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Release Date: October 21, 2024

My blurb:

The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide is a comprehensive beginning for asexual and aromantic seekers to develop better relationships. Regardless of whether you’re troubleshooting a current relationship or you’re just beginning your aspec journey and don’t know how to approach relationships, this guide will examine and deconstruct harmful norms, teach you to value and defend your boundaries and needs, and open your mind to the incredible variety of relationship options that are very much available to people like us. An excellent starting point for how to think about partnership from an ace/aro perspective.

Interview: Modern Pleasure

I was a guest on the podcast Modern Pleasure. We had a good conversation that was nuanced while still being accessible to people who don’t know much about asexuality. Very interesting discussions of negotiating sex in mixed-orientation relationships and how people might figure out they’re asexual.

 

 

Julie Sondra Decker, author of the book The Invisible Orientation, and strong advocate for the asexual community sits down for an in depth conversation with Dr. Jenni and Kim.

You can listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts or your check it out on your favorite podcatcher.

Interview: Reimagining Spinsterhood

I was a guest on the podcast Reimagining Spinsterhood. Lucy Meggeson interviewed me for a lovely chat about the experience of asexuality and the threads we share with perpetually single people.

 

In this week’s episode, I’m talking to the fabulous Julie Sondra Decker. Julie Sondra Decker, is an author from Tampa, Florida. She writes fiction for adults and children—usually speculative fiction, fantasy, and science fiction—and she is widely known for her nonfiction work in asexuality awareness activism. Her nonfiction title, The Invisible Orientation, was released in September 2014.

You can listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts or your check it out on your favorite podcatcher.

 

Ace Week 2023: Asexual Characters in Fiction

I’m doing a live YouTube event to celebrate Ace Week on Friday, October 27, 2023, at 7:30 PM Eastern. I’ll be discussing asexual characters in fiction.

Subscribers and interested parties can chime in live in the attached chat, and I’ll read out examples of ace characters that viewers have encountered. Will discuss if the representation is good and what we want to see more of in ace fiction! The video will be available to rewatch if you miss the event.

You can tune in on my YouTube Channel:

Interview: Flow

I was a guest on the podcast Flow. The episode was called The Silencing of Asexuals. Sheila Das conducted an in-depth discussion with me on conversations we can have about asexuality and why they’re important.

Julie Sondra Decker shows how asexuals are silenced when denied as a “real” orientation, not divergent enough by queer groups, or overlooked by some sex-positive advocates. We look at how silencing then reverberates in TV shows, institutions and personal violence. But how has the scene been changing? And what can we do about it through our conversations? Julie is a leader and advocate in the asexual or Ace community and author of The Invisible Orientation.

You can listen to the episode on Spotify or your check it out on Apple or Google, or listen to it embedded.